Unrealism of Social Media

"Life's becoming unrealistic and everything now seems calculated." These are the words of someone who have thought abstractly about our social lives. Every emotions, thoughts and reactions have been planned and dictated in the social media. Technology have stripped our real social lives of it's raw and organic reality. See, we've been installed into a system in which we're reliant on the illusion of constant connectivity through social media. Anyone feeling detached is experiencing the disillusionment in their active perception of reality.

A lot of people feel this way, so, if you do, know that you're not alone. Bit I'm not here to make you sadder by talking about the problem, I'm here to cheer you up by talking about the solution! How do we escape this social illusion? I'll give you seven points:

1. Do things that add to your soul: You're human (I hope you're not a bot crawling my page) so act like a human. Make art, do sport, read books, swim, take a hike, play an instrument, learn a new language, start a blog, learn to dance, write music, learn a skill, work on yourself and focus on what you can do to improve the perception of your IMMEDIATE reality. Know when to disconnect from the online flood of negativity. Keep people in your life that add to your energy and that you trust to help build that support network. (You don't need to do all or one of the activities I listed here, all you just need to do if find yourself and do what pleases your soul).

2. Delete your social media: Now this is going to be hard and if you'll be deleting your social media accounts make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. Social media is an addiction, you'll have to wean yourself off it steadily and replace it with your new found addictions in (1) above. You might not know how much weight you're carrying on until you release yourself. You'll feel a lot better, trust me,..oh and plus, you won't even miss a thing, I promise!

But you might need the social media to do some productive work, so I'll advise you to keep only the accounts that enrich you. Following gossips won't add a vitamin to your blood, nor will it start a world war, honestly. Gossips are entirely distractions unless you derive entertainment from the drama that constantly occur, then you should create limits for yourself. But, know that you're not being entertained if you're growing jealously everyday or it's negatively affecting your mental health or decreasing your overall happiness. In such case, stay off social media completely!

3. Know that social media is here to distract and control you: Everyone is on the social media, even dogs and camels have accounts (I might be joking but everything is possible these days). Everyone you'll never see or hear speak to you in real life, people you'll never needed their opinions or comments, people you never needed to know what they are doing, who they like, what they hate or the music they are listening too currently are all on social media! There's no restrictions on how much these people can say nor how valid any statement from them can be. So, the result is, you are absorbing junk information everytime, things you never needed to know in the first place, but the saddest truth is, you decided to believe and care about every one of these things and you ended up being distracted and control by the trends. I won't say more than this, Next!

4. Social media is social illusion: The love or hate you see shown on social media will not and will never correlate with how they are being shown in real life. Social media is where to establish your fantasies, do not build the foundation of your social life in it and do not base your beliefs in it. You'll end up anxious and depressed. Oh! They all wished you a happy birthday and Facebook, sent you cake emojis and gifs and reposted you on their walls. Really, they only wished you happy birthday when FB reminds them it’s your birthday. But when you delete FB, majority of whom  you talked to there just vanished, oh, and these aren’t just random online folks, but people in your town that you hang out with!  People who care much about you aren't even the guys you roll with on the internet, they are the people you spent much of your day with, sharing a good time.

5. Know your place on the internet: Know what you're looking for. If a website seems useless to you and you can't find a reason for being there, why stay? If a website is constantly messing with your life through addiction and you wish you have never discovered it, why stay?? If a website keeps invading your privacy uncontrollably and making you lose focus on more important issues, why stay??? So my friend, ask yourself "why your are on a website?" If you have read my article up to this point, then pause and ask yourself why you're still reading this,... this and this. (I'm just joking😄😄...   ..but I'm not). If you don't know what you're looking for, you should learn to be comfortable with the distractions/entertainment it brings, if you're still not comfortable, then the site is not for you!

6. Allocate time for meditation/prayer/silence: I don't know how to explain this, but these three activities work magic on the psychological balance of the mind, the energy concentration of the body and the gratification of the soul!

7. Get involved in offline community activities: Maybe join a group on meetups around your hobbies. Confidence grows through experience. Grow a garden with your family, play football with friends, exercise at the public gyms (of course, you do all these after everywhere is clean of Coronaviiiirus!, Dont get sick and don't get people sick).

That all there is folks! Remember even without social media life breeds depression and anxiety plus reality is a matter of perception, once you control your perception you dictates what's real!

Posted by Kompleksanda.

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